Written by NotALawyer Legal AI · Reviewed by External Legal AI · Published April 27, 2026 · Last reviewed June 26, 2026
You can usually file an uncontested divorce yourself for the cost of filing fees — that means both spouses already agree on property, debt, custody, and support. The moment something is in dispute, going it alone gets risky. Here's how to tell which case you have and how to move through it.
Write out with your spouse who gets what: house, cars, retirement, debts, custody, support. Agree on every item in writing and you're a candidate for filing pro se (on your own). Any sticking point means it's time for counsel.
Most state court websites post free "self-help" divorce packets. Expect a Petition, a Summons, a Marital Settlement Agreement, and — if you have kids — a Parenting Plan and Child Support Worksheet.
Filing fees run about $140 to $400 in TX, AZ, NV, and NM. File in the county where you or your spouse meet the residency rules. Short on cash? Ask the clerk for a fee-waiver application.
Your spouse must be officially notified through service of process — usually a sheriff or process server, sometimes a signed waiver. Botched or skipped service is the top reason DIY divorces get bounced.
If your spouse contests anything, hides assets, or there's domestic violence, abuse, or a serious custody fight, that's the line — bring in counsel. Fixing a bad pro se result usually costs more than the lawyer would have.
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How long at least one spouse must have lived in the state before filing for divorce, in every state. Some states also add a separate county requirement. Each figure is cited to the state's divorce statute.
General information, not legal advice. Counties, military service, and where the marriage occurred can change the rule — confirm with the cited statute for your state.
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